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Is this good? I wish I had some friends to get rea

Is this good? I wish I had some friends to get ready with but my kids are eating ice cream and my husband is rapidly tidying dinner before the babysitter arrives! Quick, be my friends!

The evolution of the @waterstones book launch event outfit 😂

It reminds me of my wedding....s. I had one where I was very bridal, with my makeup and hair done and a fancy dress. And then an Indian ceremony and reception where my Aunties wrapped me up in a stunning sari and I daubed myself in bronzer! Without the wiring of my wedding dress, I felt so...me! Last Thursday was the press facing event, and today I meet with members of this community being interviewed by my husband!

Tried on all sorts but earrings are @trend_tonic bought for press launch, black dress was Vinted @truedecadenceuk , white skirt was old @frenchconnection , black top is last year @andotherstories sale. Jeans are recent @joules Heels are Vinted @marksandspencer

It's OUT!!!!! 🤩🙌🏼 - swipe for the sweetes

It's OUT!!!!! 🤩🙌🏼 - swipe for the sweetest surprise this morning 🥹

It feels like a vulnerable thing to do, to write a book so deeply from the heart and throw it out into the world. This is my most powerful one yet. It comes with a different tone, a gentle, urgency of an empowering invitation to live. Really live.

I woke full of adrenaline and excitement knowing that it lands with you today! Let me know if you've got it and how you're finding it.

I promise. This book doesn't make you more uncomfortable than you already are. We're already grappling with these truths in the dark, in our anxieties, dreams and worries. This book brings them into the light and sheds a whole new liberating perspective on them. Freeing you up to live more fully and freely.

My husband read chapter one, straight after I’d finished it. He turned to me, full of emotion and said ‘why didn’t you tell me this stuff before?’.

I thought I had….but maybe not like this.

This book is fearless and candid. We go straight to the core of the route of all our fears. We don’t distract, as culture urges us to do, we disempower. It’s challenging but you’re in safe, compassionate hand

It’s for those who want to shrug off worry about what others think, sidestep fear of failure, embrace life by inching towards an acceptance of its fragility. It’s about living more, harder.

📸- @jnvisuals1

@penguinlifebooks @bevjamesmanagement @dundascomms

We’re a complex, glorious mess of humanness, and

We’re a complex, glorious mess of humanness, and so are they.

Finding truth in the fact that not all that happened around me had everything to do with me was such a lightbulb moment.

When I began to recognise that other people’s stress (including my kids) wasn’t a statement of my failure, I began to cope a little better with the chaos around me.

There is SO much in my new book, The Uncomfortable Truth…OUT TODAY….about letting go of the need to control the things you can’t, and leaning into the inevitable chaos and complexity of being human, instead of seeing it as a fault somehow.

Whilst it’s not a parenting-focussed book like my others, goodness me it will feel deeply transferable!

Sure, sometime the chaos around us is very much to do with us, and in those moments we can learn to take responsibility and resource ourselves.

But this is for those moments and time when people really are just being people, and kids really are just being kids...and it’s not your failing.

Axx

Imagine you were booking an air b&b online. I don’t know about you, but I hop straight to the reviews.

How would you feel if you discovered that all of those reviews had been written by people who hadn’t even set foot in that accommodation, let alone visited the local area?

You’d know their reviews meant little to nothing.

In the same way, when I feel judged by a passer-by, or find myself judging others, I recall this little metaphor, reminding myself that someone’s judgement of me (or mine of them), is as accurate as a review about somewhere I’ve not visited.

To find more confidence in this, comment TRUTH to order a copy of my new book 'The Uncomfortable Truth'

99.9999999% of the people that judge you have absolutely zero idea of what is truly happening in your life, heart and mind. So, how accurate can those judgements be? It’s like reviewing a hotel I’ve never stepped foot inside, in a country I’ve never visited.

Axx

AD I’m so excited that @mypippeta want to run wi

To prevent guilt turning into shame, we must find

To prevent guilt turning into shame, we must find compassion for ourselves.

Sometimes we put ourselves in jail for things that we haven’t actually done wrong. Sometimes we punish ourselves for far longer than we actually deserve.

Imagine giving a child a year’s jail sentence for stealing a sweet. You just wouldn’t!

Yet how often do you do that to yourself? How often do you lie awake feeling shame and guilt for something that you did weeks, months, even years ago…maybe something that someone has already said they forgive you for?

Sometimes we punish ourselves far beyond what is helpful.

Thought for the day: Are there any things in your life, in your heart and mind that you’re still beating yourself up for? That you haven’t forgiven yourself for?

What would it be like to tell yourself: ‘It’s OK, I’m done beating myself up over that, I choose to forgive myself.’

Where might you need to let yourself off the hook, and see your confidence and self-esteem start to rise because of it?

Axx

So so proud of these. It's everything I hoped for.

So so proud of these. It's everything I hoped for.

Out Thursday (comment TRUTH for order link) but I'm loving the early readers reviews coming through. I can't wait for the sunshine to drop through your letterbox and be picked up from the shelves in TWO DAYSSSSSS.

Also, swipe to see one of my fave photos with @limitless_em and @rosamunddean snapped by @jnvisuals1 at @allbright at the press event. So much warmth and strength in these incredible women.

Dress was @needleandthreadlondon
Lightening earrings from @trend_tonic
Makeup by @ariane.young_mua @joy_goodman_agency

Well, this sure is a pinch-me moment. Thank you so

Well, this sure is a pinch-me moment. Thank you so much for having me @psychologiesmagazine

The article is a powerful one. I encourage everyone to go and treat yourself to a copy and a moment in a cosy corner next time you get five mins ☕️

It was hard to find a line to share as @lifestyleditorholly 's article is full of 💎 she pulled from our chat. But here's one...

'Actually, in turning towards that discomfort, we can learn to live more fully because a lot of life is uncomfortable, and culturally, we're wired to avoid that. Whether it's mental or physical, we're encouraged towards speed, efficiency and also to numb - to drink, escape and scroll. Collectively we're feeling quite disconnected, empty and lonely, so this seeking of comfort is not serving us. Feeling less tethered to fear frees us up'

Let me know if you get a chance to read a copy of the brilliant @psychologiesmagazine

Photos and makeup by the talented @olispencerphotography and MUA @amandaclarkelondon

@penguinlifebooks @dundascomms @bevjamesmanagement

At university there was a girl who was so unkind t

At university there was a girl who was so unkind to me. A friend gave me this piece of advice and 20 years later I still think about it.

The fact that our lives will end is the fuel for so much fear and anxiety. It's the 10th Uncomfortable Truth in my new book, and I talk about how living life with a gentle acknowledgement of its ending can actually be a way to welcome so much more joy, freedom and fullness.

📖 Comment TRUTH for a dm with the preorder link. Out in 2 days!!!!

Early reader - 'I've got to be honest. Before I even read the book I felt anxious about the final chapter. But as I read the others and got to know your approach, I just knew you would nail it. I've re-read it three times already. I want to absorb it. Amazing stuff and so many things to actually act on too. Thank you'

It’s tough not to compare, isn’t it! Especia

It’s tough not to compare, isn’t it!

Especially when you’re comparing yourself with snapshots of those who seem to be doing better.

That’s the thing about comparison. It turns confidence and happiness into insecurity and unease in a matter of seconds.

This summer let’s remove the pressure to enjoy every moment. Let’s allow ourselves to enjoy the good ones that arise amidst ‘normal’ life.

I have sooo much more to say about this! For tips and insight, read my book, ‘Raising a Happier Mother’.

Axx

This where we unlock another level in life... The

This where we unlock another level in life...

The Uncomfortable Truth - change your life by taming 10 of your mind's greatest fears.

OUT THURSDAY. Comment TRUTH for the order link.

Here are the 10 truths. Which one holds you back most of all in life? Which one will you be reading first?

1.     Some people don’t like me
2.     I am going to fail
3.     I will hurt people I love
4.     I can’t always be fully present
5.     Life isn’t fair
6.     I am not good enough
7.     People misunderstand me
8.     Bad things will happen
9.     I will lose people I love
10. I am going to die

And as you move into a place of radical acceptance, you’ll find yourself living more freely and intentionally, with more presence and confidence than ever before.

When you need to escape for a moment, consider wha

When you need to escape for a moment, consider what you need. Often when we feel overwhelmed, we head to the busiest place on earth. Social media!

When you’re stressed or overwhelmed, your nervous system switches into fight or flight state but you don’t want to fight with your kids and you can’t ‘flee’.

So you opt for the functional freeze state. You disappear into your phone. You’re there in body, but have mostly checked out in mind.

You think you’re being a rubbish parent, but in truth, you’re a tired one.

It’s not what we want. It doesn’t make us feel good. So, when we find ourselves scrolling time away, instead of lurching to self-criticism, think about these things:

- Consider how you’re feeling. Overwhelmed? Bored? Cornered? Apathetic? Lonely?

- How might you meet the need as soon as possible, in a big or small way?

- Might you have chosen to immerse yourself in your phone over shouting, running for the hills or panicking? A bit of dissociating when we’re at the end of ourselves can feel ‘ugh’ but can sometimes be best-case scenario to aid self-regulation when in that heightened state.

- Instead of beating yourself up for doomscrolling the hour away, look at the bigger picture of your resources at the moment. Where can you pull back on demand, or address exhausting perfectionism to win back resources even if circumstances can’t be changed?

- What realistic boundaries would you like to place?

‘I can’t always be present’ is one of the chapters of my new book ‘The Uncomfortable Truth’ - injecting some insight and compassion into why we find it so hard to be in the moment as much as we’d like.

Axx

In this, the third of a special ten part series of

In this, the third of a special ten part series of The Therapy Edit, I chat through the second of The Uncomfortable Truths; I Will Hurt People I Love.

Comment POD LINK below and we’ll send the episode directly to your DMS.

The Uncomfortable Truth: Change Your Life By Taming 10 of Your Mind’s Greatest Fears is my 5th book and is set for publication on the 8th August!

Pre-order your copy here and have it delivered straight to your door on publication day!

#uncomfortabletruths #therapy #lifechanging

A sign of maturity is being less offended. As the

A sign of maturity is being less offended.

As the roots of our identity grow deeper into the earth, we find ourselves less shaken by the winds of opinion and criticism.

Want this for yourself? My book 'The Uncomfortable Truth: change you life by taming ten of your mind's greatest fears' is out on THURSDAY 🤩🤩

Early feedback: Loving the book - really impacting me deeply. Half way through first chapter. It's SOOO good! Thanks for writing it. I genuinely feel it will be life changing for me x

Comment TRUTH and I'll dm you the order link. I can't WAIT for you to have it. Thursday is going to feel like Christmas Day for me know it's in your hands!

Axxx

Anna is a mum of three, and a Psychotherapist, Author and Speaker. She is a warm communicator with a passion for taking therapy out of the therapy room.

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