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The secret is out! ‘Raising a happier mother: Ho The secret is out! ‘Raising a happier mother: How to find balance, feel good, and see your children flourish as a result’

This isn’t a parenting book. 

This is a book about YOU. 

Because as you gain balance, headspace and confidence by lessening guilt, anxiety and burnout, then YOU will flourish. 

And the wonderful side-effect of a woman stepping into herself, is that her children benefit too.

We are more able to anchor, nurture and instil confidence in our children, when we have these things for ourselves. And we’re deserving of them for our own sake.

PREORDER now on WATERSTONES or AMAZON if you want it, and then it will be a nice surprise in August! Plus it really helps show retailers that this book is wanted, and needed (which I truly believe it is). 

I am DELIGHTED that the news is out. And so grateful for your support with my work. You have no idea what it means to me. Thank you to @bevjamesmanagement @penguinlifebooks @dundascomms for making this happen and for being such advocates of my work and words. 

I can’t wait for you to have it in your hands xx
Packing for a family of five for a week doesn’t Packing for a family of five for a week doesn’t come without stress. As I filled bags, my mind drifted to this time last year. This pic is from then. I feel similar feelings when I look at this pic, as I feel when I look at my smiling PND pics of 5 years ago. But at least here I wasn’t smiling. I didn’t  feel the same pressure to pretend than I used to.

This time a year ago, the day we were leaving to spend Easter in Wales, my husband took the kids out so that I could focus on packing. He returned. I was on the kitchen floor crying, failing to catch my breath. I’d packed 2 water bottles. That was it. I couldn’t. We cancelled the trip.

Burnout was one of the most humbling, terrifying experiences. I came face to face with the scraped out bottom of the barrel of myself. Any demand, a request, a needing child, a basic decision, too much noise, sent my nervous system into overdrive, like a malfunctioning robot. I was shocked by the physical-ness of it. All I could do well, was lie and stare at nothing. I was useless. I was broken. (For my full story listen to my podcast ep with @flictaylorwrites on Every Day Burnout Conversations and the episode with @zoeblaskey 

Burnout happens when you plough through the limits of your resources for too long. It’s something we descend into. It’s something we can often prevent (unless circumstances give us no choice)

And this is why I’ll never apologise for banging on about valuing your worth, about self-care, about doing the things that nurture your well-being. 

Because how can these things be boring or cheesy, when they saved my self, my sanity, and my relationships? When they’re so intrinsic to us being ‘okay’?

Recovery happens overtime, not overnight. In the big and the small decisions, in the leaning in and the leaning on. Overwhelm for me, still sits within reach.

Anyway, we’re here now. In wales. And I’m reflecting on how…

We NEED gentleness, we NEED respect, we NEED to allow ourselves to matter. To ourselves and others.

Further reading: my book ‘know your worth’. My sofa sessions ‘overwhelm and burnout’ or ‘mothering the mother’

NOTE - this is a post from last year I went to find after my reel last-night xx
Isn’t that the truth? At this time of year I ca Isn’t that the truth?

At this time of year I can’t help but reflect on a burnout I had at Easter 2 years ago. I speak openly with @motherkind_zoe on a podcast I did with her not long after if you want to hear more of the hugely honest details.

Making space for your rest can feel hard to prioritise, inconvenient and impossible at times, but hopefully these resources will help:

🎤 On 5 ways to rest when you can’t (The Therapy Edit)
🎤 On 5 ways to get space when you can’t (The Therapy Edit)
📺 Overwhelm and Burnout sofa session (annamathur.com)
📺 Mothering the Mother sofa session (annamathur.com)
📕 Know Your Worth - my book that unpicks people pleading and perfectionism 

Anna xxx
A little line out of yesterday’s bitesize newsle A little line out of yesterday’s bitesize newsletter that my mind keeps landing upon xx 

(You can sign up in my bio to receive my twice weekly emails. They’re super short and contain a simple thought to reflect on, or 3 short points to answer one of your questions. Friday’s is on health anxiety)

#motherhood #motivation #presence
AD|Here are 4 of my favourite ways to boost our ha AD|Here are 4 of my favourite ways to boost our happy hormones by nurturing our gut health. 

If you’d like to give @Symproveyourlife a try, use my code ANNA50. 

The offer is a huge  50% discount off the first 3 months of the flexible subscription for new UK customers making it £24.99 per month (Usual price £49.99). Cancel at any time. 

Let me know if you have other tips!

#symprove #symproveyourlife #guthealth #giveitashot #ItTakesGuts
‘Hold my hand’ I said, as we walked through th ‘Hold my hand’ I said, as we walked through the carpark.

‘I’ll hold my own hand’ she replied.

And down the pavement she marched, holding her own hands. 

It made me laugh, and it made me think.

How often have I held my own hand….metaphorically. 

All the times someone reached out to hold, support, comfort or guide me, and I held my own hand instead.

I can do it.

She can hold her own hand. But she can’t do it in the way that I can do it. 

I am taller, I see further, I know more, I can act faster, I am stronger, my love goes deeper.

Sometimes I’ve held my own hand out of healthy self-sufficiency, nudging my own boundaries. Grown up me saying to little me ‘we can do this. I’m here’. 

But other times I have wanted to hold my own hand out of fear of burdening, or out of false belief that to reach out is to fail, and I need be the one who meets all my own needs. 

But sometimes, others are more equipped or resourced than me. Or their knowledge or love for me runs deeper than my own.

THIS - a repost from something I wrote last year after my mum reminded me of it! She’s used it in a talk she did recently. So I thought I’d dig it out 🥰
“It’s not who you are that holds you back, it’s who you think you’re not” - Hanoch McCarty

Do you ever find yourself thinking “I can’t do this”, “I don’t deserve this”, “someone else is more capable than I am”, “I will fail”?

Self-doubt is something that so many of us struggle with, and following a request from someone in this wonderful community of ours, I tackle this topic in this week’s solo episode of The Therapy Edit where I share a powerful 3-step process to help you reframe self-doubt to ease those feelings of worry, anxiety and the fear of failure.

I really hope you find it helpful - and please do share it with others if you think it could help them too.

(link to listen along in stories)

Anna x

#TheTherapyEdit #AnnaMathur #annamathurpodcast #wellnesspodcast #wellnesspodcasts #selfdoubt #selfdoubtbegone #selfdoubtkillsdreams #fearoffailure #youcandothis #getoutofyourcomfortzone #youarecapable #youarecapableofamazingthings #youaredeserving #youvegotthismama
Here's to YOU! Here's to the mother hearts. The on Here's to YOU! Here's to the mother hearts. The ones who mother parents and grandparents. The ones who mother their friends and their children, and people in their workplace. The ones that are the first to sense when something is awry or someone is struggling. Here's to the ones who'd be found nursing dolls and applying pretend plasters to a fathers knee, or holding friends hair back in the nightclub toilets. Here's to the ones who write notecards and send texts, who say 'call me anytime' and really mean it. The ones who approach the quiet one whom nobody else has spoken to. Here's to the mother hearts who cry at the news because someone else's pain reached through the screen and touched them. Here's to the time and the thought, the energy and the investment regardless of what you get back.
Here's to the tears shed for other peoples hurt, here's to the tea made and the sofa cushions plumped for other peoples comfort. Here's to the diary noting other people's landmarks and anniversaries and sad days so that you can let them know they aren't alone. Here's to all the mother hearts with tired feet, standing beds and desks in classrooms to mother the nation.
Regardless of your family status, your mother heart deserves to be celebrated for there's no doubt you are a mother to more people than you'll ever realise 

Note - every year I think I’ll write something different but then I re-read this and decide I’ll share it again! Thinking of you all today xx 

#mothersday
I heard a sad story today. One of those stories yo I heard a sad story today. One of those stories your heart jumps into and your mind plays it out as if it’s happening to you. I recognised that my mind had jumped to anxiety, as it often will when you’ve journeyed through trauma and loss. I pulled it into gratitude instead.

Gratitude isn’t a call to invalidate feelings of overwhelm, grief or sadness, or challenge. It’s not an invitation to ignore all that is hard or sad, but to realise that not ALL is hard or bad. 

Where it’s hard you need others, and where it isn’t, you can move towards the needs of others.

I shared this tip in my newsletter recently (sign up in bio), that every now and again I just say ‘wow’. I try and engage in the awe and wonder of the moment I’m in, be it looking at the breeze softly moving through the treetops; or a small hand nestled in mine. The glorious miracles that get overlooked as mundane, but are truly anything but. Is anything mundane??? 

Just some reflections on gratitude. 

Further resources:

📕 Mind Over Mother - every mum’s guide to worry and anxiety in the first years
📺 Intrusive thoughts sofa session (on my website)
📺 Health anxiety sofa session (on my website)
📺 Overwhelm and burnout sofa session (on my website)
🖊️ The Reframing Anxiety course (on my website)

Anna xxx
Some Saturday thoughts on self-doubt ❤️. I hop Some Saturday thoughts on self-doubt ❤️. I hope you like these little info carousels! 

Anna xx 

#selfdoubt #selfhelp #mentalhealth #impostersyndrome
One of my many lightbulb moments about self-care….

Acts of self respect are those things that meet your basic needs, that are a statement of your value as a human. 

Self-care are those acts that build self-esteem and confidence on top of that. I think the reason many of us find self-care is so challenging is that we are not putting down those foundations, the acts of respecting basic needs first.

Obviously, it’s whatever is caring for you. And we all have our take and feeling towards the topic! There was a time I realised I needed to up the bar of what I considered caring after realising I applauded myself for something my husband wouldn’t have even considered an act of care. 

I found the nice stuff harder when I’d not been meeting or acknowledging basic needs. 

Now I see meeting basic needs as a foundational act of self-respect, and doing all the lovely stuff as a boost and nurturing of confidence and self-esteem!

To delve deeper you might enjoy:

🎤 My podcast episodes on overwhelm and burnout

🛋 My mum guilt sofa sesh on my website. 
My book ‘Know Your Worth’ (I have a huge section on this in there!)

📕 My book ‘The Little Book of Calm for New Mums’ which aims to challenge and shift the way we support ourselves in motherhood…right from the start.

#selfcare #mumlife #motherhoodunplugged #motherhood
This week I had the absolute privilege of running This week I had the absolute privilege of running two workshops at @vickypattison @iain_reitze_lifestyle and @ercan_ram very first Women’s Wellness Week retreat.

What a couple of days. The women, most of whom came alone, were so open and warm with one another. There were tears, laughter, words of support, stories shared, sweat, strengthened muscles, treats from @sensoryretreats and glorious food from @yourplateorminecatering (who I was delighted to discover was a fellow Herefordian). 

One of the most pertinent moments for me was in the second workshop where in pairs, the women looked into each others eyes as I read some words. The sense of being seen, regardless of how differing the women’s stories were, was so powerfully tangible.

Thank you for having me as part of this special week in which the team got to see exactly what made their hearts light up - women stepping into themselves, together.

I’m so excited to see what is to come.

Anna xx
The next guest episode of The Therapy Edit has lan The next guest episode of The Therapy Edit has landed!

This week I’m joined by Dr Rupy Aujla - NHS doctor, recipe book author, app creator and host of the Doctor’s Kitchen podcast - as we discuss his One Thing: that consistency is key when creating nutritional habits that will support our wellbeing as busy mums.

Following the diagnosis of a life-changing heart condition, Dr Rupy turned to nutritional medicine to overhaul his lifestyle and ultimately revesrse his condition. Now, through his incredibly delicious recipes, his podcast and The Doctor’s Kitchen app, he teaches us all how to cook our way to health and how the medicinal effects of food can help us cope with whatever life has to throw at us.

🎧 Listen in for some quick and easy healthy meal ideas plus Dr Rupy’s hacks for cooking on a budget.

I really hope you enjoy - I’ll pop the link in stories. Let me know what you think! x

For more information on Dr Rupy’s books, app and podcast, check out @doctors_kitchen.

#TheTherapyEdit #OneThing #AnnaMathur #annamathurpodcast #wellnesspodcast #wellnesspodcasts #modernmotherhood #drrupycooks #eatwelllivewell #eatwelllivebetter #eatwelleveryday #easyrecipeideas #immunityfood #immunityfoods #eatforhealth #eatforyourhealth #eatyourwaytohealth #nutritionalmedicine #healthyrecipeideas #healthyrecipeshealthylifestyle #cookingonabudget #familymealideas #busymums #healthymummy #healthymum #healthymums #foodforfuel
For those nights when you want to sleep, and the v For those nights when you want to sleep, and the very fact that you aren’t asleep is stopping you from sleeping further. 

The knowledge that all rest is restorative was especially helpful to me. As is the realisation that when my thoughts go strange; I’m actually often in the first stage of sleep itself! 

Hope it helps. Have a listen to the podcast for more fleshed out tips.

Anna xx 

#sleep #cantsleep #tired #motherhood

Anna is a mum of three, and a Psychotherapist, Author and Speaker. She is a warm communicator with a passion for taking therapy out of the therapy room.

Her hope is that through words, spoken or written, people will experience light-bulb moments, learn about themselves and be able to find more freedom and enjoyment in life.

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