‘I actually feel quite profoundly changed and cannot wait to continue – it feels like the course has enabled me to take control of some issues that I have struggled with for decades’ – Nice Girl Course student
- £150 includes:
6 sessions over six week
Daily guided journal points
Weekly ‘Nice Girl’ challenges
- Covering people-pleasing, confidence, internal dialogue and much more
- Packed with practical tips and light bulb moments
- Based on grounded psychotherapeutic insight, clinical work and anecdotal experience
- Take breaks and complete in your own time
This course will guide you through addressing people-pleasing, perfectionism, vulnerability and confidence (and more) haven’t designed this course to knock the nice out of you, oh no! Nor will you suddenly transform into an overwhelming, loudmouth having discovered your newfound confidence. It’s designed to address people pleasing and increase sense of self and identity. It’s designed to strengthen your voice and encourage you to recognise that it has value, as do you.
PLEASE NOTE – This course requires active personal input with a commitment to journal. You don’t have to journal extensively, but in order to benefit from the material, time set apart for self-reflection and note-taking is vital.
What is a nice girl?
A Nice Girl believes she must put everyone first at all times regardless of the cost. She is thoughtful and sensitive to others; needing to ensure that they are happy. Friends and colleagues go to her for help, because she goes above and beyond. However, she finds it hard to ask for help from others as she doesn’t want to burden them.
A Nice Girl’s overriding fear is that she would hurt, upset or anger someone, so she apologises bountifully, often for things that aren’t her fault. A Nice Girl’s diary is littered with things she’s said ‘yes’ to regardless of whether she wants to do them, because she hates to let people down. A Nice Girl has a knot in her stomach made up of all the unspoken hurt, embarrassment and pain that she doesn’t speak about. She’s kind to everyone, but not that kind to herself.
Everyone says she’s lovely, and she is. But if they said it to her face, she’d brush it off. She wouldn’t believe it, because she doesn’t see it. She’s tired of being The Nice Girl, but doesn’t know how else to be.
If this resounds in any way. This course? I’ve written it for you.
What will the course do?
I’m Anna, a Psychotherapist with over 8 years experience of working with women and a huge passion for empowering fellow Nice Girls. I run an Instagram page called @annamathur where I chat about mental health.
I was the Nice Girl for most of my life until I got sick of being in a cycle of burning out. I repeatedly gave too much of myself away, leaving little left to keep me going. I knew I didn’t want to spend the rest of my life living in a way that was so damaging to my sense of worth and identity. I started a process of addressing this, and as a result, I feel more ‘me’ than I ever have. I have interwoven my Psychological insight and experience as a therapist, along with my personal learning, so that I can gently challenge you on a habit of a lifetime.
I haven’t designed this course to knock the nice out of you, oh no! Nor will you suddenly transform into an overwhelming, loudmouth having discovered your newfound confidence. It’s designed to address people pleasing and increase sense of self and identity. It’s designed to strengthen your voice and encourage you to recognise that it has value, as do you.
How the course works:
There are six sessions to the course.
1 – The Nice Girl problem: Why this course matters to you.
2- Critical conversation: Addressing your internal dialogue.
3- The people-pleasing con: The truth about people pleasing.
4- Vital vulnerability: Why vulnerability is vital.
5- Challenging perfection: Becoming comfortable with our messiness.
6- Growing strength and confidence: Continuing to grow.
You don’t need to feel like you’ve conquered each session, but make sure that you’ve given enough time to each element of the session before you hop to the next one.
The more you engage in each element of the course, the more you will experience shifts that will permeate your life.
The three elements of The Nice Girls sessions:
Thoughts: This section gives you insight and gets you thinking. Grab a cuppa, somewhere comfy, and a journal. This is the meat of the course. Read it through a couple of times and scribble some notes.
Journal points: These points guide you in making the content personal. Daily journalling for the six weeks is strongly recommended to enable you to benefit most from the content. You don’t need to write extensively, bullet points will do.
Nice Girl challenges: These challenges get you to put the content into action and this is where you will see the most change in time. Be kind to yourself in the extent that you take on these challenges. You’ll grow in confidence each time.
Thank you so much for giving me the tools to take back control of my life!
I expected it to be helpful as I felt I really fitted the ‘nice girl’ bill but each week was a revelation and I can already feel it impacting my relationships with my partner, children, wider family and friends for the better.
My husband has noticed such a difference in me that he commented it might have been the best £240 we ever spent!
The nice girl course was interesting, enjoyable and challenging, it has enabled me to become kinder towards myself leading to improvements in my sense of self worth and self esteem.
I absolutely loved journalling – I was amazed at the clarity that this brought with it and is something I intend to keep up. To be honest, I don’t think I could pick a favourite week as each one hit the mark so profoundly!
It opened my eyes to the fact that I deserve to do this work on myself because I am worth the investment!
I actually feel quite profoundly changed and cannot wait to continue – it feels like the course has enabled me to take control of some issues that I have struggled with for decades.