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Contemplating pregnancy after PND

I have recently announced my third pregnancy! I am due in the middle of February next year. From the outside, […]

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Sunday thoughts x

Sunday thoughts x

My husband asked me if I’d like to do anything f

My husband asked me if I’d like to do anything for myself this weekend.

‘What? A walk, or a workout?’ I asked?

I thought about hobbies. Do I have any? What do I like doing beyond mothering, working and flopping onto the sofa?

I like moving my body. Is that a hobby? What did I do before kids for fun?

I felt a bit boring for a moment. Like I should have jumped at a chance to play a game of tennis (I have no coordination) or go browse the shops (I don’t love shopping), or meet up with friends (too last minute)I don’t know. That I should have had desired something more interesting than a workout or a walk.

But then I reflected further. And I feel SO grateful that I’m able to do the things that make me happy and fill me up. I love that they are simple. Whether I walk when the kids are in bed, dive into a book, or stretch in the garden before everyone gets up. I can do one or more of those things most days.

For years I’ve said I’d book a climbing course. I used to love climbing with friends as a teenager. Maybe I will, one day. Maybe I won’t like it anymore. Maybe it will be a fun thing I can head to when given the chance. I don’t know. But right now, I’m more than happy with walking and sweating and falling onto the sofa, or into bed with a book.

And I’m happy that this is enough.

Just some reflections really. I love a little reframe, as you know. I went from feeling boring, to grateful for the simplicity of the things that fill me up, and I wondered if it might be helpful for someone else!

What do you do for fun? What is a hobby anyway? Surely it’s just stuff that we like doing? And who’s to say what those things should be, or look like, or how exciting they should seem to others? It’s about YOU.

We love their laughter. But trust me, they love ou

We love their laughter. But trust me, they love ours more. Swipe 👉🏼

So much to say on this! But just throwing out some Friday thoughts on #motherhood

Extra reading:

📚 My books: Know Your Worth and The Little Book of Calm for New Mum
📺 My sessions on annamathur.com: Mothering the Mother or Overwhelm and Burnout
🎙️ The Therapy Edit podcast

In this Friday episode of The Therapy Edit, I chat

This week’s 10 minute episode of The Therapy Edi

This week’s 10 minute episode of The Therapy Edit is all about health anxiety. Here are four speedy tips to help when the waves arise, but do listen to the episode for more information.

The Health Anxiety video workshop (£20 on www.annamathur.com is also packed with insight and tools for you too.

Anna xx

Here’s a line I took from my ⭐️ new book ⭐

Here’s a line I took from my ⭐️ new book ⭐️ about the difference between guilt and shame, and how we can let guilt prompt us to process what has happened in our days. When we slip into shame, we often make huge statements about our worthiness, chipping away at self-esteem and fuelling our critical inner chatter.

I can’t wait for you to have it.

Preorder ‘Raising a happier mother - How to find balance, feel good, and see your children flourish as a result’ now to get your hands on a first copy and celebrate with me on publication day x

Ps - this has since been copy edited 🤣. I’ve just seen some grammatical errors. I am so grateful for the proofreaders in my life!

This realisation has changed both my approach to p

This realisation has changed both my approach to parenting, and my approach to rest and how I care for myself.

When we find ways to rest, refuel and refill we are giving ourselves extra ability to find calm when our child has none.

I’d say this was one of the hardest things about parenting for me over these last years.

I’m not historically a calm or patient person. I thought it was just part of my character, but I now understand that it was more about how I struggled to regulate my emotions and responses to stresses and triggers.

When we’re tired and depleted (hey motherhood 👋🏼) we can’t trust patience to come out of us automatically.

We have to put it in ourselves..and hold boundaries around the things that might be unnecessarily draining us of it.

When one of my kids is in meltdown mode, or bouncing off the wall they’ve run out of calm (the ability to regulate their emotions/behaviours). I need calm (to be able to regulate myself) so I can be their anchor when they’re feeling tossed by a stormy sea.

This is called ‘co-regulation’. I saw a fantastic post by @thehighlysensitivechild that inspired this reel. It has stayed with me. She wrote this:

‘Co-regulation is simply when a child has run out of calm and needs to borrow their parents calm so that their mind and body can relax’

Such a clear and helpful way to describe this!!

What do you do to feed yourself with calm?

If you need some resources on how to get more grounding, rest and regulation, even when you can’t see how, seek these out:

📕 My book - The Little Book of Calm for New Mums
🎙️ The Therapy Edit - look for the episodes ‘on how to stay calm when your child isn’t’ and ‘5 ways to get rest when you can’t’. Also ‘5 ways to get space when you can’t’
📕 My book ‘Know Your Worth’
🎥 Sofa sessions (on my website) ‘Overwhelm and Burnout’ and ‘Mothering the Mother’

It’s so very worth addressing health anxiety.

It’s so very worth addressing health anxiety.

I have two that I give my kids:

1- I am so grateful to have you
2- I am so terrified that something bad will happen to you

Finding ways to live with life’s uncertainty is so important. Otherwise we can feel like we’re living bracing ourselves for the next curveball or stomach dropping phone call.

There is hope that you might enjoy more of the first type of hug ❤️

Listen to today’s 10 minute podcast to get some tools (I also have a 1 hour Health Anxiety workshop on my website; and my book Mind over Mother’ which will help too)

Trauma can play a big part in health anxiety. It’s hard to comfort and guide yourself through anxious moments when the worst HAS happened to you. See my website for some helpful contacts. Where there is help, there is hope x

#anxiety #healthanxiety

Is Health Anxiety something that unhelpfully dampe

Is Health Anxiety something that unhelpfully dampens your experience of motherhood? If it is, you’re definitely not alone!

In today’s solo episode of The Therapy Edit, I offer a few therapeutic coping techniques for managing health anxiety.

Just a few quick and easy reframes and coping techniques that just might help you adopt a ‘cross that bridge if I come to it’ approach to parenting.

Hope it helps.

Anna xx

#healthanxiety #parenthood #anxiety #maternalmentalhealth #mentalhealth

This is a quote from my new book ‘Raising a Happ

This is a quote from my new book ‘Raising a Happier Mother’. My book encourages (and equips you) to raise the bar for your own mental and emotional health and well-being. As we raise that bar, we find that the harsh, high, unsustainable bar we set for our parenting, softens and nudges gently down as a result.

This isn’t a parenting book.

This is a book about YOU.

Because as you gain balance, headspace and confidence by lessening guilt, anxiety and burnout, then YOU will flourish.
 And the wonderful side-effect of a woman stepping into herself, is that her children benefit too.

We are more able to anchor, nurture and instil confidence in our children, when we have these things for ourselves. And we’re deserving of them for our own sake.

Preorder my new book on @waterstones or @amazon now!

‘Raising a happier mother: How
To find balance, feel good and see your children flourish as a result’

Preorders take a minute or two, but they secure a first copy, and support me as an author in getting the word out there (algorithms n’ all that!). Thank you so much and I can’t wait for you to have it xx

@penguinukbooks @penguinlifebooks @bevjamesmanagement @dundascomms

In this Friday guest episode of The Therapy Edit,

In this Friday guest episode of The Therapy Edit, I welcome guest Gemma Bird who shares her one thing which is a reassuring piece of advice for those in the early years of parenthood worried about the spiralling costs in the early days.

Gemma is a mum of two, speaker, author and regular television contributor who specialises in offering advice for mothers on managing a budget and money saving hacks.

Gemma Bird’s practical and savvy money-saving tips have made her a social media sensation and she is also a regular on ITV’s Lorraine as one of the show’s expert ‘Saver Squad’.

From entertaining the kids, useful money-saving apps and the best deals and freebies, hard-working Mum Gemma shares the ‘need to knows’ to push through economically challenging times.

The key to Gemma’s success comes from her own motivation, a working Mum who frequently held down multiple jobs to make ends meet; she is actively instigating change, dropping the perceived shame and secrecy around being strapped for cash, in debt or economising. She says, “There
is a pride & empowerment that comes with being in control of your money”.

You can follow Gemma on Instagram as @moneymumofficial

Hope you find this a reassuring chat.

Anna x

#mentalhealth #moneymatters #savingshacks #costoflivingcrisis

AD- When we are stressed or having a tough moment,

AD- When we are stressed or having a tough moment, seeking something familiar makes us feel safe and comforted.

And that’s why, in intense or wobbly moments I reach for my @rescueremedyuk dropper bottle.

The Rescue Remedy formula is the same today as when it was developed more than 80 years ago.

This exact blend of handpicked flowers has helped calm me through teenage exams, emotional breakups, wedding day nerves, work stress and tough parenting moments.

It’s one I’ve passed on to friends, and will one day press into the hands of my kids, knowing that the the original trusted remedy will comfort them too.

Mother nature is therapy for me, so I love that Rescue Remedy contains a unique combination of 5handpicked, Bach Original flower essences to balance and calm.

The dropper is available to buy at Boots, Holland & Barrett, Amazon, all major retailers and via independent pharmacies and health food stores.

@rescueremedyuk

I LOVED speaking to an incredible group of 50 moth

I LOVED speaking to an incredible group of 50 mothers from the @davidlloydraynespark community. I spoke how to address the anxiety, guilt and burnout that often rob us of headspace and presence. Thank you for having me ❤️

I thought I’d share some of the ‘Ask Anna’ q

I thought I’d share some of the ‘Ask Anna’ questions I get, here (with permission) So that you can input your wisdom too.

I’m answering this one in tomorrow’s newsletter (sign up in my bio)

My intensive group coaching course ‘The Motherhood Reset’ has one week left!! The thing I’ve loved the most is listening to the women share their stories and wisdom with one another, so I thought I’d bring that here each week.

Please reply with gentle, kind consideration.

A xx

Anna is a mum of three, and a Psychotherapist, Author and Speaker. She is a warm communicator with a passion for taking therapy out of the therapy room.

Her hope is that through words, spoken or written, people will experience light-bulb moments, learn about themselves and be able to find more freedom and enjoyment in life.

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