The People-Pleasing Course

Description

A people-pleaser must put everyone first at all times regardless of the cost. They are thoughtful and sensitive to others, needing to ensure everyone else is happy. Friends and colleagues go to them for help, because they go above and beyond. However, the people-pleaser finds it hard to ask for help from others, as they don’t want to burden them.

A people-pleaser’s overriding fear is that he or she would hurt, upset or anger someone, so they apologise bountifully, often for things that aren’t their fault. A people-pleaser’s diary is littered with things they have said ‘yes’ to regardless of whether he or she wants to do them, because they hate to let people down. A people-pleaser has a knot in their stomach made up of all the unspoken hurt, embarrassment and pain that they don’t speak about. They are kind to everyone, but not that kind to them self.

Everyone says they are lovely, and they are. But if they said it to their face, it would be brushed off. They wouldn’t believe it, because they don’t see it. They are tired of being a people-pleaser, but they don’t know how else to be.

If this resonates in any way, then I’ve written this course for you.

WHAT TYPE OF COURSE IS IT?

I’m Anna, a Psychotherapist with over 8 years experience of working with women and a huge passion for empowering fellow people-pleasers. I run an Instagram page called @annamathur where I chat about mental health.

I was the people-pleaser for most of my life until I got sick of being in a cycle of burning out. I repeatedly gave too much of myself away, leaving little left to keep me going. I knew I didn’t want to spend the rest of my life living in a way that was so damaging to my sense of worth and identity. I started a process of addressing this, and as a result, I feel more ‘me’ than I ever have. I have interwoven my Psychological insight and experience as a therapist, along with my personal learning, so that I can gently challenge you on a habit of a lifetime.

I haven’t designed this course to knock the nice out of you, oh no! Nor will you suddenly transform into an overwhelming, loudmouth having discovered your newfound confidence. It’s designed to address people-pleasing and increase sense of self and identity. It’s designed to strengthen your voice and encourage you to recognise that it has value, as do you.

HOW DOES IT WORK?

You will read one session every two days and on the remaining days you’ll be given some guided journal points. 

You don’t need to feel like you’ve conquered each session, but make sure that you’ve given enough time to each element of the session before you hop to the next one.

The more you engage in each element of the course, the more you will experience the benefits.

COURSE FORMAT

You don’t need to feel like you’ve conquered each session, but make sure that you’ve given enough time to each element of the session before you hop to the next one.

ABOUT ANNA

Psychotherapist and passionate Psycho-educator with experience working in GP surgery, private practice and various charities. Speaking, running workshops and writing regularly on topics around maternal mental health, anxiety, depression and advising on general mental wellbeing (e.g. people pleasing, emotional resilience, internal dialogue, self-care)

• Accreditation with the BACP (British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy)
• Masters in Psychotherapy & Counselling – Regent’s College London 2011
• Post Graduate Diploma in Psychotherapy & Counselling – Regent’s College London 2011
• Post Graduate Certificate in Psychotherapy & Counselling – Regent’s College London 2010
• Undergraduate Degree in Social Psychology – Loughborough University 2004-2007